12 Secrets Real Moms Know

12 Simple Secrets Real Moms Know:  Getting Back to Basics and Raising Happy Kids by Michele Borba, Ed.D.

I just finished reading this book today, and I think it is definitely a book worth sharing here.

The author begins the book by discussing what some of the problems are facing today's mothers.....

"Many moms today are suffering from what can only be described as a kind of frenzy -- an abnormally high level of busyness, tension, stress, speediness, anxiety, heightened awareness, and even panic.  Many moms can't get enough sleep; they can never keep up or do enough for their kids and are feeling guilty and inadequate about it.  They're overwhelmed trying to be Supermom, to fulfill the expectations placed on them.  They overcompensate by taking on more and more until you might as well admit that they're in a state of Motherhood Mania.....And is Motherhood Mania worth it?  Is it worth all the time and energy and money we're spending?  Do our kids really benefit from all these splendid extracurricular activities and stimulating experiences?"

According to author, Michele Borba, the answer is a resounding "No"....."All our obsessive and hyper mothering is not helping our kids become happy and mature young adults and may in fact be doing them more harm than good."

So, you may be wondering, what are the 12 simple secrets?

Although there is a good chance the 12 secrets may be nothing new to many parents, Michele Borba points out that many mothers today have forgotten these simple truths about parenting.  She urges all mothers to get back to what really matters and gives practical advice, activities, tips, and further reading suggestions to help you do it.

"12 Simple Secrets Real Moms Know"

1. A mother who loves teaches worth.
2. A mother who is firm and fair gives her children a moral code to live by
3. A mother who listens shows her children they matter.
4. A mother who is a good role model gives her children an example worth copying.
5. A mother who teaches values inspires character.
6. A mother who supports her children's strengths builds their confidence.
7. A mother who encourages independence cultivates self-reliance.
8. A mother who applauds effort nurtures perseverance.
9. A mother who accepts her children's shortcomings nurtures resilience.
10. A mother who takes time for her children helps them build strong relationships.
11. A mother who laughs teaches joy.
12. A mother who takes care of herself holds together her happy family.

 As a mother, I find that I am continually a "work in progress."  I find it helpful to have a list like this I can refer to when things get tough.  Most of all, it helps me to stay focused on what is REALLY important.